Comparing Everything, Even Natural Hair Types, Can Be Discouraging
Change Mindset: No One Natural Hair Type is Better Than Another
|Do Not Compare Yourself to Other Natural Hair Sisters|
I’ll be honest, I once fell victim to that silent mode of jealously. Let’s just say, I had a desire to have the same length of hair as other sisters. I used to compare my curl pattern, as well as my length to another. Then I realized that hair is like skin. Like skin, every shade, freckle and mole is different. There are simply too many genetic variables that go into the makeup of our skin color, let alone our hair. So, why compare ourselves to other natural hair sisters?
Whether you have a TWA or a long mane, capable of doing every one of Solange’s African American hairstyles, the goal is the same – health. We’re all running our own personal race, not against each other. It took me quite a while to realize this when I first joined the natural hair community back in 2006. I had been told my whole life that my natural hair was “so long” and that “You must be mixed!”, or that “You have to tell me how your hair got so long!” Yet, it troubled me to see women who had longer hair than mine.
- It’s OK that you may not be able to rock every African American hair-style. Embrace it!
- It’s OK that she’s a 3c and you’re a 4c. Own it!
- Develop a healthy mindset surrounding your hair. Create a regimen that works for you!
- Be consistent and stay in your lane. Your lane is designed just for you!
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Now, I’m not saying that it’s not OK to look for advice from other natural hair sisters. What I am simply wanting to eliminate is the notion that you did not achieve success because your hair hasn’t reached Mahogany Curls status.